My name is Jennifer and I would like to share with you the story of my daughter, Karly.
This beautiful,amazing girl was killed in a car accident on August 12, 2010, at the age of 17, she passed at 5:00 a.m. in the hospital. .
I want to say that the overwhelming love for my precious child, at the hospital, was incredible. She has some loyal friends who NEVER left her until the end…they were with me and her family the entire time. I was told that there were so many kids from her high school there, the lobby was over flowing onto the next floor. (?) But it wouldnt surprise me. A different person came in to see her all through the night. Now to try & talk about what happened.
The driver was speeding on a country road, Karly was the passenger .The driver lost control of her truck and they hit a tree moving at 55 mph from my understanding. The driver was unhurt. Karly lost consiousness. Her dad, Don, was the first to get to the scene. He told me "I thought she was just out for a little while and would wake up soon. She looked normal, but asleep. I had no idea that would be the last time I saw her alive." He tried taking her from the truck, but she was trapped and her seat beat would not unfasten. She was cut out of the truck & air lifted to UAB in Birmingham, Alabama. She lived about 12 hours after the accident. But never woke up.
Her beautiful face was crushed, her eyes were swollen and black. And her brain was swelling, which made her eyes and ears bleed.Tears of blood. Her doctors said she could feel no pain but could hear everything that people were saying to her.
I sat with her and sang "You are my sunshine" to her like I did when she was a baby. Kari, her sister, sat on the other side of Karly, and we talked and included Karly in our conversation. I just couldnt believe what was happening. All I could do was sing "You are my sunshine" to her because I didnt know what else to say to her. That song would calm her when she was a baby and I hoped had worked then too. I didnt know what else to do.
The part of her brain that "went" first was the part that feels and the part that allows you to move. For that, I am grateful ….that she had no pain.
She left behind me, (her mom), her dad, Don, 2 sisters, Kari & Taylor Nicole and a brother, Logan, extended brother and sister, Breonna and Sage, as well as a boyfriend, Matthew. I couldnt have asked for a better boyfriend for Karly. He loved her deeply. Everyone did. We all miss her so much.
Karly, I love you more than the sky <3 and I will never let anyone forget you. ~Mom~
Ever since she was able to talk, she would say to me "I love you Mommy, more than the sky."
Karly was/is the best daughter, friend and sister anyone could ever have. She was a friend to everyone. It didnt matter what you looked like or how you dressed. If you made a friend in Karly, then you had a loyal friend for life.
She had a very close relationship with her sister, Kari. If you saw one you saw the other. She loved her brother and he loves her so much. I remember she would always read books to him. And Taylor, her baby sister…she was Karly's "little girl". And Karly was Taylor's Sissy. They had and still do a very special bond. Taylor's little heart was broken when I told her what happend to her Sissy. When Taylor sees a butterfly, she says, "Look mommy, Karly made a butterfly." <3
Karly loved her Nana (Nana Bell) and MawMaw Ann. She was lucky to have two grandparents that loved her so much. She is now in heaven with her Papaw Mitchell & Lil Maw Maw. Oh, and her rabbit that was a gift from her boyfriend,Matthew, Ollie.
She loves babies, children and animals. She wanted to work with disabled children.
She was and still is awesome and still touching lives even after leaving.
Im proud of you Karly. So proud. <3 I received a message from a Senior at Karlys school. She said that in the history of Pell City High School, there has never been such an impact on a body of students like the impact Karly left on them. She said because of Karly, and the horrible thing that happened to her, a school, came together. That there are students who talk to one another, who before this accident, would have never even spoke to one another. Because thats how Karly was. She wanted everyone to be friends. She left behind such a good example of that, that kids are doing things they knew Karly would have done. For example: There was a boy who had special needs. And kids would make fun of him & do what kids do…make his life harder than it already was. Well, Karly became close friends with him and after this happened, he said "Who will take care of me now? Who will have my back? Karly is gone. Well, one girl saw one day in the lunch room that there were some bullies bothering this friend of Karly's and she stepped in and stopped what was happening. She sat next to him and told him that she was now his "Karly". She shared that with me, and all I could do was smile.
I have started sending out wallet size pictures of Karly and sending them to her friends to keep in their cars as a reminder to them & their friends to slow down, not to text while driving and pay 100% attention to the road, because the other person may not be. So far, Ive sent out over 100 and kids are still sending me their addresses because they want one for their car. If this small idea about a picture can save just 1 life, then its so worth it. I dont want any family, any mother or father to ever have to know this feeling of not being about to touch your child again.
Today (August 22, 2011) was the final day in court for the driver that was responsible for Karly's death. My Karly was the passenger in the driver's truck, and after printing Karly's phone text messages out, learned that Karly had texted a couple of friends telling them that Tabitha would not slow down, That she had told her 3 times to slow down & she chose not to. Karly said "She's gonna kill us!" Well, Karly had her seatbelt on, the driver, (I call her) did not. The Driver walked away from this wreck, that she continues to call an accident but Karly, she didnt walk away. Karly had to have her seatbelt cut from her & airlifted to UAB, where she died the next morning at 5 a.m. I feel no sympathy or anything for the driver of this truck, because, well, theres just so much more to this story than I want to type in here. Put it this way, August 12, 2011 was 1 year since Karly left and I or her father, have still yet to hear and "Im sorry", or any kind of sign of remorse from her or her family.
Today was Tabitha's sentencing. She got: 3 years probation, 3 years suspended driver's licsense, 100 hours of community service, talking to schools. And her parents were ordered to pay Karly's dad for the expenses of the funeral, headstone & bench.
So now court sessions are over….maybe some kind of healing can start….maybe? So many unanswered questions…. but there is a reason for this life. There has to be, or what would even be the purpose of existing?
We love you Karly. We all miss you so much and cant wait to see your beautiful face and be able to touch you again. Your friends talk about how they cant wait to hear that laugh you have…. I miss that. Everything about you.
And from her baby sister, Taylor, when you see a butterfly, think of Sissy/Karly. She made that. ;o)
I love you Karly, more than the sky. <3<3<3<3
If you would like to friend Karly on her fb page…go to "Karly Jean"
*** You can also see her Balloon Release for her 18th birthday on April 5, 2011. Held at her High School. One of the most beautiful sights you might ever see. Go to Memorial Balloon Release for Karly Meeks YOU TUBE or look for Alex McKown….thank you. <3
Feb. 6, 2012….17 months have passed since you left. It still feels as it were last night I was with you at the hospital
You're friends havent forgot about you. Your locker is still 'your locker' as is your parking place at school.
I know your safe. I know you hurt no more. And I know you see us. But you can never be sad again or hurt. No one in this life can ever hurt you again.
You will always be my Karly J. 17 forever and beautiful.
~More than the sky….I love you~ MoM
April 20, 2012
I had to share this. The most beautiful thing Ive ever heard came from Taylor's (6) mouth the other day about her sister Karly. She says to me ' Mommy. Karly has been talking to me. All I do is look in her eyes and she talks to me that way. Without moving her mouth. She told me that she is helping me to stay on the right track and thats she is with God and she is happy.' I was speechless. I didnt know what to say to this sweet child I have. She brings me so much joy & comfort. Yes, I believe God allows things like this to happen to ease & comfort a family in such pain, including a 6 year old. Out of the mouths of babes, right? We miss you Karly J. I love you more than the sky. <3<3<3<3
June 29, 2012…. healing starts today. Pray.
August 1, 2012… Today, a law went into effect in the state of Alabama. No texting and driving. In your honor baby girl….. changes are being made.
I love you more than the sky…. <3
December 22, 2012
Today friends and family gathered to the accident site. Today the tree comes down!
Family members each got to take a swing at the tree… and yeah it felt amazing. <3
For you Karly and the ones who love and miss you so much. <3