SHANE PATRICK & TYLER ROBERT BARCLAY. Born May 8,1985 and June 18,1990. Died November 3,2007. Two AMAZING young men with, dreams of a future. That was stolen in a split second.(*see Below) On 11-11-07 I stood where my boys took there last breath. The story about each son, is so unique. I'm blessed to have this place where other's can come to share their personal experiences. Along with photographs, memories, and songs. I have engulfed myself in the "legalities" along with many public speeches, for high-risk youth programs. To escape the inevitable. I have been given a second chance. My boy's weren't. To do the year after the crash, one more time. This time, I was to be in the moment. Without the comfort, of "Shock". Allowing my denial, and numbing my grief. So it was 11-03-10, I yet again stood at the crash site. I saw the driver, (My nephew) drive pass, than stop. I yet again, gave him a hug. Told him how I love him, and he has my support. A few days later, I was at his bedside. The same Hospital, the same intensive care unit. Just three years earlier. We were. This was the day, I was gifted a "Second-chance". To be fully there in the moment. In the pain. Another Felony DUI Crash. Thank God, this one didn't kill anyone else. So, these last 11months I've engulfed myself with a hard core reality check. As I prepare for a Memorial Service in SHANE P. AND TYLER R. BARCLAY'S HONOR. 11-11-11. A generous donation of $6,500 for a "Niche, and a Memorial Service." The Cemetery that made this possible. Is a place that allows the local Police Dept. and there program for High-risk-youth called P.R.I.D.E participate. It is a walk through death , mock funeral, for the teens and their mentors. I was invited as a speaker. My impact saved lives. Now to have a bronze plaque, engraved and set in a Memorial wall. The last stop, will forever remind teen's, that "Reckless-Distracted-Driving-KILLS".
***UPDATE*** The driver survived. Guilty of-1- Manslaughter,w/gross neg.w/D.U.I. 1yr. no driving. 8-tickets w/o a single violation. Supported by a society, that allowed him to drive. A family, who blames my "Parenting". Yet, he endanger's the public. You can read the update here.http://www.santacruzsentinel.com/ci_17757405?source=email